I want you to think about two extremes. First, think about the best day of your life. Take a moment to savor the feelings and bask in the memory. Now, conversely, I want you to think about the worst day of your life. Don’t stay there too long, but think back to the strong emotion you undoubtedly felt on that day as well. The feelings on the best day and the worst day are the extremes – one where you think your heart will burst, and one where despair could sink you if you stayed there. If we had to live in either one of those for long, we could not sustain it.
The reality is, most of life is not lived in these extremes, but in the middle. And sometimes it feels like the mundane middle, filled with tasks like fixing meals, and changing diapers, and cleaning house, and getting dressed for the day, and doing your makeup, and driving from one thing to the next, and paying bills, and grocery shopping, and feeding the pets, and doing laundry, and the hundreds of little tasks you do in a day. And all that besides doing work you might get paid to do.
My question is this – how can we find God in the mundane middle? How can we see the divine spark in the day-to-day ordinariness of our lives? How can we find inspiration in the commonness of our daily routines? Like everything else worthwhile, it requires time and practice. You have to be intentional if you want something to change.
In my work as an occupational therapist, I can attest to the fact that change most often occurs incrementally. Small changes lead to big results over time. Think about a child learning to walk. Over the course of the first year of life, the child changes and works toward skills day by day. First the baby learns to hold his head up. When he has more stability and awareness of his body, he learns to roll. Then he sits up and gets more stable and can reach outside his base of support while sitting. Then he will begin to do some sort of “army crawl” and then get on all fours to reciprocal crawl. Then he begins to pull up on furniture and sidestep along it. Finally, he takes that first step forward! A lot of growth, stability, and learning has taken place in the tiny baby first learning to hold his head up, and yet the changes have taken place almost imperceptibly. When we want to make changes or grow in our own lives, we should make small changes we can live with and can follow through on.
Deuteronomy 6:6-7 says that the commands God gives are to be on our hearts. “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.” At all points throughout the day, we are to be talking about the blessings of the Lord as naturally as we breathe in and breathe out.
Here are a few practical suggestions:
- Take the time. Make a time for Bible reading and prayer. For me, the best time for this is in the morning. But if you have better focus at night, go with that!
The point is, start with 10 minutes. Everyone has 10 minutes – either get up 10 minutes earlier or stay up 10 minutes later.
You will be surprised at how much you will begin to crave that time and gradually it will increase. The Bible is “living and active and sharper than any two-edged sword” (Hebrews 4:12). As you begin to “be transformed by the renewing of your mind” (Romans 12:2), you will see things you have not seen before, as your Teacher, the Holy Spirit, leads you into all truth.
- Pick a verse to meditate on for the day, or for the week. Work on memorizing the verse.
- Speak prayers of thankfulness for the things you see around you.
- Take note of the beauty in others and the love you have for them.
- Ask God to give you a deep love for people you interact with, including those you work with and even strangers you will interact with that day.
- Practice hospitality – create or look for opportunities for fellowship.
- Talk about the Lord with your children as you go about your daily activities. When you are outside, talk about the beauty of the sky, or the gentleness of the breeze, or your thankfulness for food or a warm house.
For most of us, it is natural to seek God in the hard times, and be thankful in the very good times, but sometimes harder to seek him in the mundane middle. But he is there, and he is the God who sees, El Roi, who knows your sacrifices and your vulnerabilities, and who walks with you in good times, in bad times, and in ordinary times. He is with you in the middle.
“Behold I am with you always, to the end of the age” (Matthew 28:20).